Forgive Everyone in Every Way

Forgive everyone, everyday, and in every way. Each person is doing the best he or she can. No one, absolutely no one is perfect. Since no one is perfect, this means that we all need to share more patience and more understanding surrounding all aspects of our interactions with one another. Think of the last time you needed to forgive someone. And, think of the last time you needed to be forgiven. When we need to be forgiven, there is a feeling of lack or something as missing. When we need to forgive, we often feel anger. Anger is a secondary emotion for loss. When we lose something, the need to restore what was lost. This sends us on a search within ourselves for attention in a peace filled direction. If you noticed, to forgive or to be forgiven leads you to the same place. Both paths of awareness lead us on a search. What are you searching for? You are searching to find wholeness. What is wholeness? This is often one's perception of reality created by what one believes to be true. This creation of what one believes to be true is the path of one's soul seeking manifestation in the world of form from the formless.

There is no set way to wholeness. Simply being aware that you have a self-defined understanding of wholeness that is within you is what we simply need to give attention to within us. This continued attention on what we seek the most within us will grow in our awareness until the need to place our attention on forgiveness fades away.

If a person was to believe that forgiveness is something obtained through the human psyche alone, we all would find the journey into such a place within us as something to avoid. In the deepest parts of who we are, we want to connect to what is sacred within us. Therefore, to re-create a past interaction with someone who we feel we harmed or who we feel harmed us is a useless attempt to embrace what cannot be. This is not to say that certain relationships close to us do not need verbal efforts to make up for a past action leading to harm. In fact, a person can find this useful, and even, helpful. The point I want to make is the place one's attention may be at the time such a verbal interaction will become vital in the success of such expressions taking place.

Dying patients remind me that there are countless times in all our lives where the issue of forgiveness was perceived and we become aware of it. There is no way a dying person can retrieve all their past life experiences in physical form, but we can recall these moments in time and visualize how we would have handled them differently. This is our soul seeking to make right a wrong our personality may not allow us to do, or it may no longer be feasible to take place in our current circumstances. People are such a vast array of experiences. There are endless paths of attention within us calling for our attention. Perhaps, the instant we remember who we are and who others are in the deepest parts of our being, we begin to remember the love that brings all our lives together, and into, being. This remembrance of who we are as children of our Creator reminds us of the unconditional spirit reflected within our own selves. The transcendence of flesh and blood inspires us to give our Creator our lives, the lives of others, and our very reason for living into the hands that created us.

Keeping Your Dreams Alive - Finding Happiness in Your Goals!

In this busy, hectic world, it is sometimes easy to forget that our lives are filled with dreams and hope for a different kind of tomorrow. We forget the importance of sitting back and remembering that so much of our happiness in life is dependent on keeping our personal dreams alive in some way.

Everything in life seems to have priority and just surviving, at times, is all we can do. But, think about it. When we stop for a moment and dream about what we can do to accomplish our goals, one day at a time, there is hope for a better tomorrow. And where there is hope, happiness soon follows.

Everyone dreams and develops goals differently but one thing is for sure, if you do not develop a plan of action to meet those goals, the dreams will never happen. If you do not strive to make daily action toward your goals a priority, the meaning of your life is diminished. Don't let life take over your dreams, take action today. Just follow a few basic steps and see what a difference your outlook on life will be. Use the following action plan as a guide. Tweak the guide to fit your particular circumstance, then, just do it! Remember, you have the power of your destiny.

Action Steps:

1. Set some time aside, about 15 minutes a day for one week and journal you're past experiences. Think about the time you were 18. What did it feel like to have aspirations to conquer the world? What made you feel alive and full of energy? The essence of what you have written down is where you will find life fulfilling dreams.

2. Break down your goals into identifiable daily, weekly and yearly actions. Be sure the goals are very, very specific. For example, "start a business" is a broad goal but "to start an internet business" is a more clear, concise goal.

3. Be sure to ask yourself the right questions on what it will take to accomplish your goals. By asking the right questions, you will be able to overcome any obstacles along the way. Instead of saying, "What kind of business can I start to earn income?" You probably should be asking, "What kind of business can I start on the internet that will be fun and bring in income I desperately need?" By asking the question the right way, you are changing the meaning of your desires to meet both the practical and passionate side of your life. By including the dreams in your goal for earning income, your likelihood of success is two-fold.

4. Be sure to work toward your goal every single day. It doesn't matter if the goal seems impossible, what matters is you are trying to get there and that is what is making you happy. A 75 year old woman was on a US television show "America's Got Talent." All her life, she has wanted to pursue a career in comedy but did not have the opportunity. Needless to say, she was a finalist on the show and now, has begun her career as a comedian. The point is, she was always striving to do what made her happy.

5. Don't let other people rain on your dreams. Dreams and goals do not have to meet anyone's approval except your own. If your goals require extra time away from the family or you need extra money from the family, negotiate and communicate their importance to those involved.

6. Lastly, follow through on your goals. Read your goals daily and have an action plan, written out, daily. Do you get my point - daily?!

Dreams are very personal and have different meaning for different people. Without our dreams and actions toward them, our lives are dull and hopeless. The importance of dreams cannot be diminished because without them - life becomes a chore, not an adventure it should be.

Learn to Be Happy and Life Will Be Good to You

Nearly everyone have heard the hit song 'Don't Worry, Be Happy'. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. This simple message certainly made several people happy by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, spirited and positive life is fantastic, and is also great for your health. Being optimistic and happy in reality protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is related to most causes of death like heart conditions, cancer and strokes.

One of the best things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always stay the same is change', and in your life you have the power decide of required changes if you want to. Even if you find yourself in an intolerable situation you can always find comfort in knowing that, it also could change.

Relationships are necessary to happiness. People are different, accept them as who or How they are, avoid frictions, ceaseless arguments, and let go of all resentments. If arguments appear inevitable, nevertheless make an effort to try and understand the situation, you might just get along with it.

Happiness is found in everyone, expanding it is a way to make your life better and also healthier.

To be happy is relatively easy, just choose to be a happy person. It's been noticed that most people, most of the time can decide how happy, or stressed, how relaxed or disturbed, how bright or boring their outlook will be. The choice is simple actually, decide to be happy.

There are a lot of ways you can do this.

Being thankful is a very good attitude. We have so much to be grateful for. Thank the cabdriver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful meal and thank the guy who mows your lawn. Also thank the postman for bringing you your mail, thank your spouse for being there and thank God for being alive.

News is a source of stress. Get less of it. Some folks can't start their day without their regular dose of news. Think about it, most of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting your day with bad news doesn't seem to be the right thing to do.

A spiritual connection is also good advise. Being part of a religious group and meditation foster's inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is priceless and too important to waste. Time management can be considered as a process that includes scheduling, setting goals, planning, lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are some of the elements of time management that should be understood to develop effective personal time management skills. These skills can be polished to include the finer points of each skill that could give you that extra boost to attain the results you want.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They'll probably copy your actions. Try not to keep repressed anger or frustrations to yourself, this is bad for your health. Rather find ways of expressing them in a way that won't stimulate injury or hurt to anyone.

Hard work brings a lot of personal satisfaction. It leaves an impression of being efficient in completing your projects. Achievements are essential , they give you a sense of value. Work on things that you feel are worth your time.

Learning is a happy exercise. Try and pick up something new everyday. Learning also expands and broadens your horizon. And will give you more opportunities in the future.

Exercise, jog, walk, do things that will make your body happy. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative factors like loud noises, and dangerous places.

These are the few simple things you are able to do day-after-day to be happy.

And always remember the famous quote from Abraham Lincoln, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Why So Serious?

Though it's one of the best lines of this past summer's blockbuster movie, "The Dark Knight;" "Why so serious," is also a really good question that most people might like to ask themselves.

Why do we take certain things so seriously? What is it about those particular topics that gets us so worked up and stressed out?

Alot of times we can take a step back and say to ourselves, "Is it really that serious?" or even know right from the jump that, "It's not that serious."

So really; why so serious? If you look at your own 'serious' reactions and those of others you know; you will see that it is always the things that people are ego identified with that brings the stress into the picture. In other words, it its always a concept or idea that has become part of that person's identity which raises all the hell for them.

To illustrate this; everything that your considers, is what the ego identified with. Your car, house, job, wife/husband, bills, retirement fund, etc. If anyone of these things is lost, comes into jeopardy, or is even slightly threatened; You're very identity comes under fire. Why so serious?

This just goes to show you the power the ego has over our minds until we are totally aware of it. Once we start operating above the ego, our minds are free. We are free to be sharper and more intuitive. We are even free to cultivate and protect what we know to be ours. The difference is that the chains of stress and the burden of bondage and attachment will no longer bog us down.

Life is no where near as serious as the ego makes it out to be. As a matter of fact, that seriousness is only a mental construct fueled by the ego. It does not really exist except in your head!

Life is meant to be lived. If there is anything at all stressing you right now; think about what's good right now. You may see that the source of the stress is but a thought and that it's really not that serious.

Having the Confidence to Be Yourself

It is important that you do what is right for you, that you choose to do the things in this life which suit you as a person. There is no point in doing what you do not like, or do not believe in, in order to please another person. If you do, then you will usually end up resenting the person whom you had chosen to try to please.

We humans do what we want in this life (generally speaking) but we do not always admit to ourselves that this is the case. It is easy to say that it is another person's fault that something happened, and so on, and yet in reality the truth is that we chose to go along with whatever it was. There are many situations which I think the majority of people will relate to as ones in which we knew didn't quite feel right and yet we never the less went along with it.

It is easy in hindsight to see that the wrong choice was made, and possibly that choice was made based upon the wrong reasons. How many people know of someone who stays with their partner because they are afraid of being on their own? Or perhaps you know someone who leaves a good and stable, loving and successful relationship because "something" (which they cannot quite identify) is missing?

In the world of business, how many people go into a job because it is expected of them as opposed to what they are really passionate about? It is so easy for human beings to be swayed by what other people think, or by the local "norms" in our community, or by what we think that others expect of us. It is also easy to be swayed in our very beliefs about what is right or wrong, and perhaps it is also easy to alter our own beliefs in the hope that we will change the beliefs of others.

When the chips are down, the most important thing is to be true to your own path in this life, and this means not being swayed too much by others and also not swaying others to go along with you. We are all on our own paths, and we all have to take our individual course through this life. Your own beliefs should change only because you are discovering more and more accurately who you are as a person and not because you are purely aligning with the beliefs of friends or associates, or because you are trying to impose your beliefs on another.

This does not mean that you should not change. To not change would be to stagnate and die. This is a world which constantly moves and changes and everything within it moves and changes too. Human beings are no exception. The important thing is to have the confidence to move and change in a manner appropriate to you, in a way which suits you and affirms your true beliefs about yourself.

Nor does it mean that you should not compromise in certain circumstances or situations. Compromise is inevitable in a world where everyone is an individual living their own life, upon their own path. The key is in having the ability to compromise without compromising your own beliefs or those of the other person; Balance has to be sought. There has to be give and take in every relationship in life. Life is like a see-saw; as one end goes up there is another end which goes down...but there is an optimal point where both ends are level and everyone is happy. This is the equilibrium which everyone should seek to achieve in their relationships with others.

This equilibrium can only happen if you have self-confidence. To have the confidence to be yourself and to continually grow in your understanding of yourself and the world is the basis of what life is all about.

Enjoy a great song and relax.....